people who don't vent their pain, but rather they suppress it, burying it deeply, thinking that if I just (fill in the blank), everything will be okay, or I will be happy, or I will be lovable by this parent or that boyfriend/girlfriend? They too are saying “Magic, mirror, on the wall...”
The very first thing I can remember that made a change in my life was the day I recognized how negative my thoughts were, especially about myself. Not only were they incredibly negative about myself and my life, but I realized that I could not even look myself in the eyes in the mirror without feeling the tears well up and immediately needing to looking away. I am not sure how I knew that was not a good place to be, but I did.